Emotions are the most polarised aspect of our being; i.e. they carry the most charge. So the more emotion we experience the more difficult it is to keep things in perspective and remain objective. The more emotion that accompanies an experience the more we identify with it and the more we take it personally.
Conscious awareness is commonly referred to as mindfulness, but it isn’t primarily about the Mind – it is about Awareness. Our soul’s awareness of the mind, heart and body. It gives us the power to notice our thoughts, emotions and behaviours without identifying with them or defining ourselves by them.
The soul is like a seedling – it requires conscious engagement with Life to grow and to blossom, but most people’s relationships with Life are semi-conscious. If we don’t consciously engage with Life we will make very little progress and remain passive victims of Life’s circumstances.
If we don’t consciously and fully experience our physical, emotional and mental responses to life (as they occur in the present moment), our resistance causes them to become stuck, until such time as we are willing to consciously and fully experience them.
When our experience is uncomfortable or painful, our usual strategy is to try to push it away, resist it, reject it, or numb it with something like alcohol, drugs or over-eating. Our avoidance strategies may bring a temporary sense of relief, but avoiding the underlying issue actually increases and prolongs our suffering.
Our soul has an in-built coping mechanism to repress the overwhelm, so that we can carry on with our lives. A piece of our soul withdraws from the distressing experience, carrying the distress away to a place deep within us (or in extreme circumstances, outside of our body) where it can no longer overwhelm us.
Focusing is a body-oriented process of self-discovery, which begins with simply noticing how we feel in our body and getting a “felt sense” of our present-moment experience. Getting a “felt sense” is the key element of focusing, because gives rise to deeper insights than thinking alone can provide.
Self inquiry is a relaxing and sinking of awareness through deeper and deeper layers of ourself until we arrive at our essential being or true nature. It takes us beyond what we already know, to discover new aspects of ourself and reality that are beyond our imagination.
Holistic Wellbeing is about bringing every aspect of your ‘being’ back into equilibrium and restoring balance to every area of your life – physical, energetic, social, emotional, expressive, mental and spiritual.